Before College

Share realistically your own experiences with alcohol and other drugs, both positive and negative. Be clear in what you expect from your son/daughter about such things as:

• Attending class
• Drinking and driving
• Financial responsibility
• Choices regarding drinking or drug use
• Study time vs. social time
• Staying in touch

Here are some conversation starters you may want to use:

• How will you decide whether or not to drink or use drugs at college?
• What will you do if you find yourself at a party with only alcohol to drink?
• What will you do if your roommates only want to party?
• What will you do if you find a student passed out in the bathroom?
• How will you handle it if you are asked to baby-sit someone who is very drunk or under the influence of drugs?

Most college students make responsible decisions about the use or non-use of substances. However, we also know that:

Availability + Absence of Parents + Desire to Fit in = Potentially Risky Decisions

Once They're at College

Because the first six weeks of college are a very high-risk time for first-year students, you may want to call, write, or send e-mail frequently, and be supportive.

Ask some questions such as:

• How are you doing?
• Do you like your classes?
• What is the party scene like?
• What kinds of activities are available?
• Are you enjoying residence hall life? Why?
• Do you see others making friends, or just drinking buddies?
• How are you getting along with your roommate?
• Are you feeling overwhelmed?
• What can we do to help?

If you do feel concerned about your student’s use of alcohol or other drugs, you may wish to seek intervention. See the Frequently Asked Questions page for more information.